4 Things to Never Say to your Man
By Seun Ogunseye
Hey Ladies,
Though it’s an over flogged stereotype, we can’t deny that there is some truth to this: women are complicated. It can be argued that the world hasn’t taken the time to study and understand us, however, that is a story for another day; the fact remains that men struggle to understand us, especially when it comes to relationships. In a world where, words can make or break a relationship, it is important for women who to understand that there are certain things that guys don’t like to hear. Not only because it hurts their feelings but because it may further destroy the relationship in the process. So, if you want to make your relationship smooth, here are 5 things to never say to a guy:
1.There’s nothing wrong with me, I’m fine:
I cannot tell you how many guys hate to hear this. It usually happens when you look upset or moody, and your man notices, and goes ahead to ask what’s wrong. But rather than answer honestly, most of us say, “There’s nothing wrong, I’m fine.” Ladies, we need to stop this, guys hate to hear this. It’s frustrating, and makes them feel like you don’t trust them enough to share your problems, or worst case, it drives them away and that’s not how a relationship is supposed to work.
- My ex used to do that:
I find that some women often say that to their partners, especially when men do something that was probably similar to what their ex used to do. Women, please if you love your man, do not say this! The fact that you are even thinking about your ex while in a new relationship might be indicators that you need to re-evaluate yourself and maybe your relationship.
- Does this outfit make me look fat? Or anything related to an opinion about your looks:
I can’t blame any woman for asking this. When we dress up, we like to know if people think we look good or not, after all we can’t go out of the house looking ‘not good enough’. Asking an opinion about your looks is not a bad thing in itself. However, the problem arises when the man decides to give his response, whether positive or negative, and you get angry. This is why guys always look for a way to dodge this particular question. The next time you ask your man about his opinion on your looks, get ready for his answer even though it isn’t what you want to hear and try not to get too upset about it, after all, you asked for it.
- I’m not angry:
Of all the things I have stated before, this might very well be the most important. After you both have gotten in some sort of misunderstanding or he has said something wrong and he apologizes, please do not tell him you are not angry; men thrive on simple and plain communication, telling him you aren’t angry when you are only serves to build up resentment because he’ll believe you when you say it, and assume all is well, when it isn’t. So please, if you are still angry, say so; don’t give him attitude later. Relationships are all about communication. If you do not communicate, how will he know how you feel?
I hope these tips have been helpful for you ladies out there. Drop your opinions in the comment section, if you have more to say. Next week, we will also drop a few tips on things guys should never say to a girl. Alright, have an amazing week!
