Would You Have A Child Out of Wedlock So They Can Meet Your Ailing Parent?
In Nigeria’s social history, it’s been generally frowned on to have children out of wedlock. Mainly for religious and societal reasons, parents have generally moved against their children having kids without being married.
Fast forward to today, things aren’t quite the same. More people are now opening up to having kids before marriage for many reasons – health, special circumstances etc. But for 2017 BBNaija star Uriel Oputa, she is considering it because of her ailing mother.
Uriel opened up on her Instagram about her mum’s battle with Dementia and how she’s considering having a child even though she’s not married. Dementia is basically a health condition where the patient suffers a decline in memory, language, problem-solving and other thinking skills.
According to Uriel, she has been celibate and out of a relationship for about 4 years, but wants her child to have a connection with her mother before things possibly worsen. She’s asked; “If you were in my position, would you say having a child whatever way artificial insemination or whatever is wrong?”
She went on to say; “My mum… If I leave it any longer and I don’t meet anybody anytime soon, she won’t remember my child. Even if I were to introduce my child to my mum, and she’s at her later stages of her illness, no connection, she will just… nothing. She’s already on her way out. And that made me angry. It made me angry.
“I’ve never questioned religion in any way and I never will question religion never question God, but I question my morals and for me that was deep. I question my morals in the sense of, I said to myself, what if I wanted to have a child in order for me to give my mum the chance to have a connection with my child before she goes? Because my mum is going to forget the memories that we cherished together.”
“And she’ll forget all of that. She’ll forget my name. So while she’s still there just a little bit, would it be such a bad idea for me to have a child? And that thought crossed my head and I was like, no no no. It’s not right culture-wise. People might look down at me. People might say, you’re wrong, I hate you or you’re setting a bad example. So in what situation does a situation become morally right. Put your self in this shoe, and I’m not saying that I’m going to do it, but if you were in my position, would you say having a child whatever way artificial insemination or whatever is wrong? Is it morally right or wrong? You guys decide and let me know. It’s a very interesting topic and I wanted to share that with you.”
So we bring the question to you – would you have a child out of wedlock so they can meet an ailing parent?
Watch her Instagram video below;
Photo Credit: @UrielMusicStar (Instagram)
