#Chick Chat With Connie Girl: Friends Who Are Not Happy For You
Hello Guys! It’s #TalkTuesday A.K.A. #ChickChat.. Is it shady when a friend can’t directly compliment you but you hear how proud of you she is from other friends? Or, as long as she is proud it doesn’t matter?
I opened a catering business after many years of cooking for free. I realised it wasn’t sensible to not make a business out of something I was naturally good at. After over 2 million in profits from just take away orders, I opened a brick and mortar store. It was a little hectic getting the building, the alcohol licence and the general set up of the business. It wasn’t as simple as cooking from my kitchen which I had done for years. A friend of mine came home from London after such a while and we had dinner. At dinner she mentioned how proud of me she was and how she hears so much of what I do from our mutual friend Tola. Tola is my very good friend. When I first told her about my food business ideas she thought it was a good idea but the energy I received didn’t encourage me past the awkward few seconds. So I went ahead with my plan launched the business and it’s been more of a success than I honestly expected. I kept my 9-5 until the restaurant opened so I guess not much changed on the surface. When I got home I thought about what Tola apparently had said. My best friend has never really brought up how proud of me she is directly so knowing this was a good thing but why does it feel awkward that my friend cant openly compliment me. The funny thing about it is, we have encouraged each other through weight loss but throughout the journey of entrepreneurship I’ve noticed I don’t get “enough respect” and it’s almost as though I have to prove myself first.
It is not a shock that women don’t support each other but in this case what I am asking if there is anything “shady” or “hater-ish” about a friend who despite ones success cannot say well done “face-to-face” but to the outside world Tola is so proud of me.
Whilst it’s not a grave enough offense to stop being friends with someone for because how silly would it sound saying “she never tells me she is proud of me” Shouldn’t one face reality and downgrade a friend that doesn’t uplift or encourage your talents? #friendships #encouragement