Best Friends Forever by Chioma Momah

 

Best friends forever, bestie, twinnie, almost everyone has that special friend or friends who they can unburden their soul to.  However, with women the issue of friendship can be especially complicated. How often have you heard of friends who stab their bffs in the back or just start behaving funny for no apparent reason? Many end up becoming suspicious and find it hard to trust anyone whilst others become as ruthless as the bad friends they once had. Some will tell you that good friends don’t exist and that outside of your family there really is no point having friends.

The truth is that God created us to be social and even the most introverted being wants to have those one or two people whom she can call “ore mi” from the bottom of her heart. That person who she knows has her back no matter what and who looks out for her all the time.  In the same way it’s also true that some friendships are not meant to last a lifetime and even though it hurts when you have invested in a friendship for years and then your so-called bff throws it all away, rather than cry why not learn the lessons and move on?  Rather than rushing into new relationships where you end up being hurt again try and learn to be good to yourself and others.

It’s also important to realize that the foundation for some friendships was flawed from the beginning and the relationship was doomed for disaster. An example is a friendship based on gossip and negativity which lacks substance and does not enrich the life of either party. Some break ups are actually better for us and beneficial in the long run even though the separation is difficult.  In summary don’t cry for the loss of a friendship rather rejoice at all the opportunities out there to make new exciting friendships because after all is said and done all you really need are a few good friends.