Let’s Talk Cheating
It’s Friday night. The kids are at your parent’s place for the weekend. Hubby is cleaning up after the dinner you guys made. It’s been a peaceful evening and you just came out of the shower, about to put on the new Victoria Secret Shola forced you to buy. As you are setting the mood, his phone rings. It’s been charging on the bedside table and it’s about to fall off the side. You rush to pick it up. The display screen says, “Oma B”. Someone from work? She’ll just have to call back later. It rings three more times. You can’t have him coming out just yet – you’re not ready.
As you hurry to tell her to call the next day, the text pops up. “Hey, Handsome! When are you coming over now??? I need you. I hope your wife isn’t getting suspicious? Don’t you feel naughty?” You feel dizzy as the reality of what this message means dawns on you…
He’s cheating.
Yes TW readers, it’s time to talk about the elephant in the room, infidelity.
And anyone, regardless of gender, can be guilty of it. Cheating isn’t just a man’s thing. As a matter of fact, a survey by Durex shows that Nigerian women are the most unfaithful women in the world. Although this brought discord at the time, it goes to say that women are not innocent when it comes to dipping hands in someone else’s soup.
But why? Does the reason behind the act validate it? Does a nagging wife deserve to be cheated on? What about a neglectful husband? If you think long enough you could find a reason why. And trust me when I say, cheaters will ALWAYS have a reason to cheat.
It doesn’t help that our society today has a growing trend of justifying cheaters and extra-marital affairs. When you go on social media you see/hear things like, “She isn’t taking care of her husband now! Why won’t he go and look for it elsewhere?” or “Abeg! Why are you, selfish madam? Leave your husband to share his money with us and we’ll give him something in return.” and even, “Oga leave that woman! If you can’t satisfy her, let her find her satisfaction!” I recall by a story posted by Joro Olumofin on his Instagram page.
People are so bold and open about it that it makes you wonder. Like what? Is this really what we have become? Where are the boundaries? There was a time when for better, for worse meant something. Now it seems like it’s just two people trying to tolerate each other for as long as possible. What happened? We have grown so accustomed to infidelity, so much so that a person could confidently say this,
But regardless of the situation or reason, when you are unfaithful, you break the trust your partner had in you. You also make them feel incompetent. When you sleep with someone else, it tells them that they’re not enough for you, like they are lacking something. Why would you want to do that to someone that you say you love for just a little forbidden pleasure?
What do you think? Should this be tolerated? Are we going down the wrong path? Is there justice for the partners? Should the partners cheat back? Let us know what you think in the comments section.
This cheating thing Sha. Me I don’t understand it. Like why? Why do you even bothering being in a relationship when you know you’ll still cheat? Can’t you just love the person and manage their flaws. Na wa o