#ITHAPPENEDTOME: MY HUSBAND TRIED TO MOLEST MY LITTLE SISTER
I met my husband a year ago, and we got married almost immediately with very little time for courtship. I was fresh out of a relationship when I met ***** he said he wanted to marry me upfront and I saw no reason to wait. We got married in a quiet ceremony and we were blessed with a beautiful daughter soon after.
I began to notice a few disturbing traits in my husband a few months into our marriage. He was eyeing everything in a skirt including some members of our church and a few neighbors. I felt embarrassed when I noticed this especially the one in the church and I called his attention to it one night. I begged him to desist from the act as it was too early in our marriage to be having issues of infidelity. He didn’t try to deny it but promised to change.
Two weeks prior to my delivery I asked mylittle sister to move in with me to help me around the house as I needed help with house chores especially when the baby arrived and didn’t want to employ a help.
My mum agreed and my sister moved in with me, things were okay until I noticed a strange character in my husband. I didn’t want to believe it could be true and I also did not want to accuse him without concrete proof so I started being more observant. I noticed that he started going late to work (after I might have left the house) and that my sister was no longer as free as she used to be. I asked her if there was anything amiss but she refrained from talking. I pestered her until she eventually opened up, telling me that my husband tried to touch her in inappropriate places on a day I wasn’t home. I scolded her for not telling me immediately and confronted my husband, he denied it and I was really angry.
A week ago, I noticed he was dragging as usual waiting for me to leave home before him, I tried to delay but I was already late for work. I decided this could be my chance to know what was going on. I took my baby and left the house pretending to leave for work as usual, but I only went behind the house to listen and wait. A few minutes later, I heard my sister screaming from her bedroom and I ran to the front door screaming at the top of my voice. Realizing that he has been caught, he fled the house and didn’t return until very late at night. I called my mother in-law to report what he did and she begged me not to tell my mother or any member of my family and asked me to apologize to my sister saying she and his father would talk sense into their son.
My husband came back late that night and apologized to me, saying he was very sorry and that the incident wouldn’t repeat itself. I have been living in trepidation since that day, in my own home. I begged my sister not to tell my parents as I am deeply ashamed and feared what their reaction might be. I feel very embarrassed and disgusted by his behavior and don’t know if I can forgive him. I do not want to get a divorce too as I have heard tales about endurance in marriage. My sister has gone back home as I could not take the risk of her being attacked in my home again.
I am really confused, I feel like I am stuck between a rock and a hard place, carrying this weight on my shoulder all by myself. Is all of this happening because I did not take my time to know him properly before marrying him? Has this also happened to other women out there? What did you do? What should I do? Please help me.