Chick Chat with Cornelia O’Dwyer: Controlling Husband

 

Hey Guys! The story below is a classic case of one man’s meat is another man’s poison. Some women crave a man that dotes all over them, to some this can be suffocating. #Read #Comment and #Enjoy

I was getting dressed to go out with my girls on Friday and as I ceremoniously got myself together in between the “what-are-you-wearing” “text-me-the-address” phone calls and banter with my friends, I noticed my hubby’s mood changed the closer I got out the door. He had been hinting it’s getting late since 7pm but I just thought he initially wanted me out the house because of the mess I was creating getting dressed. As I was about stepping out the door in my little black dress and highest of heels (I love my slender frame and I wear body conscious clothes. I always have) my husband passed a comment that somewhat surprised me.

Could he have done this on purpose just to ruin my mood? He goes on to say “You know, I think you should stay home, 9pm is not a respectable hour for a married woman to be outside, besides it isn’t safe”!! What?!! “You can’t be serious” I responded, he meant every word and I was vexed. It ended up in an argument and I went out anyway. I called my friend in the car and she could tell I was upset. I told her what happened and she said she would go back home if she was me. She said our girls dinner is not that important and I should have stayed. He isn’t a controlling man to me in general but has been in a subtle way trying to police my social life since we got married.

Isn’t this complete rubbish? The beginning of a controlling relationship? or should I be more conscious of going out late as a married woman? I am not a party girl so it is not a frequent occurrence. I want to be my own woman but how does one navigate the jealous streak in a partner without ignoring his feelings. Would you take this as he cares for your safety and stay home or do men hide their jealousy behind the “I care for your safety shenanigans”