Chick Chat With Connie Girl: HELP! My Ex Wants Me Back After He Left Me To Be With A Woman He Thought He Got Pregnant!
Hello Guys it’s #ChickChat.
I’m not even sure if this is karma or what to say to this, but read on….
My ex-boyfriend of 7 years cheated on me and got another girl pregnant 4 years ago. We broke up as he decided to “do-the-right-thing” and marry her. He apologised and begged at first but I was too devastated and just needed my space. I couldn’t forgive the betrayal yet I still had feelings for him. I never suspected he was even cheating. When he told me he was going to propose to her I severed ties immediately and the only time I heard from him was when he popped on my Facebook feed with his new and happy family. He had a son who is 4 and I won’t lie, his ‘wife’ is stunning. I buried all my insecurities for years until I finally got over it. Man it messed me up.
He contacted me out of the blue saying he wanted to speak to me about a few things and asked if we could meet on my church grounds. I agreed. I expected to hear he was “born again” and possibly an apology. After the service we went to the parking lot and he started his story. His son got sick recently and was rushed to the emergency room. To cut a long story short, the child had an illness and he was called to the hospital. Some tests had to be run on him as the child’s father and after the test results came, he said the doctor seemed confused as he walked in the room. He dropped the bomb and told him that his blood group wasn’t compatible and he is not the father of the 4year old. A child he has paraded to the world as his. He freaked out and called his wife cursing the “hoe” out of her. He left the child at the hospital in an emotional fit and called the mother to pick up “her child” at the hospital. He has not been back “home” since. He was crying and said he wants me back. He truly believed I was the one for him but he knew he needed to do the right thing and can I find it in my heart to forgive him. I told him to stop the nonsense talk and focus on what he is going to do. Him and his wife were both guilty of the same crime so it’s hypocritical of him to pretend like he didn’t do the same to me. I’m not married still but I have moved on with my life & I’m in a happy place.
Question for the day though, as human beings we are selective with morality. So I ask, should this man be obligated to “father” a child that isn’t biologically his but he has bonded with for 4 years unknowingly. Is it right for him to abandon the kid?