Chick Chat With Connie Girl: Couch Surfing: My Boyfriend Wants To Let Strangers Live With Him!!!
Hello Guys! It’s #TalkTuesday A.K.A #ChickChat. Hope this season brings you all great joy and happiness! As we reach the end of 2015, may we reflect on how good God has been to us despite our short comings! I’m thankful for making it through ?#Read #Comment #TagAFriend.
My boyfriend of 3 months is kind to a fault and this is one of the reasons I was drawn to him. He is sensitive, communicates his emotions and in general is soft with me. I’ve been wanting to explore interracial dating and I finally met a lovely Swiss guy who accepts me for me and is easy to be with. He is into creative arts and has a Photography studio. He is very giving of him self and time to people, volunteers for important community activities and gets overly sensitive with victims of circumstance. He is a good guy and I am enjoying getting to know him more.
I’d like to believe I’m a lovely person. I am charitable and compassionate but I give in a different way. He mentioned to me this weekend that he had listed his couch under a “Couch-Surfing” website and he didn’t want to surprise me if I came visiting and met with a stranger. I’m not that trendy so I asked him what that means. He explained that it is a hospitality exchange social network. He registered his couch on a website that provides a platform for members to “surf” on couches by staying as a guest at homes, travellers and sometimes people in need.
This seemed like such a noble and charitable thing to do but he went on to say he received an email about a Syrian refugee who needed shelter for him and his cat and he was considering taking him in. I’m black and African so we see these things VERY differently. I didn’t really say much but, “oh ok, that’s lovely” however I was panicked in my head. I absolutely can’t imagine walking into strangers randomly when I visit.
I don’t want to kill his kind spirit but how can I communicate this as a no no or is that over stepping? He obviously sought my permission and is respectful but how do I “couch” it without being offensive.