What to do When You’ve Been Ghosted!
So they’ve stopped picking up your calls. In fact, their number isn’t going through anymore. And frankly, you’ve gone past the “I hope they’re alright” phase. You now know what this is – you’ve been ghosted.
If you don’t know what ‘Ghosting’ is, simply put, it’s when a partner, friend or prospect suddenly vanishes on you. You can’t seem to reach them in any way – almost like they dropped off the face of the earth. This term started to gain popularity in 2020 and now has become a common term more and more people have become familiar with. But that’s not why you’re here. You want to know what to do when you’ve been ghosted.
Being ghosted isn’t the end of the world. Yes, it sucks and can make you wonder if you’re the problem. But if anyone is to blame in this situation, it’s the, well, ghost.
If you’re in this situation and are wondering what to do, here are 3 things you need right now;
Don’t Blame Yourself
Sometimes, the immediate reaction to being ghosted is – “is it me?“. You might feel like you did or said something that caused this sudden disappearance. However, the truth is, 9 out of 10 times, you’re not to blame.
Blaming yourself for someone else’s actions is unfair to you. What you should be doing is reclaiming your time and space. You are a wonderful person (even if you don’t feel that way right now) – you are! Respect the dead and move on.
Stay in your Happy Place
Now is not the time to listen to heartbreak songs. It may feel like the natural thing to do, but trust us – it won’t help. What you should do is find your happy place and stay there. This could mean spending time with your family and friends or doing something you love. Surround yourself with the right energy and stay positive. These affirmations always work wonders for us.
The happier your life is, the easier it is to forget you were ghosted in the first place.
Talk to Someone
We get it, moving on is easier said than done. So you should try talking to someone. When we feel down, sometimes the natural reaction is to stay alone and mull over it. But that is not the solution. You need to share your feelings with someone who can help you get out of it. This might mean talking to your friends who have been ghosted before or seeking professional help. Seeing a Therapist does not mean you are having a mental breakdown. You could try out 2 sessions to seek help from someone who is trained to handle things like this and get you feeling better.
There are lots more but we think these 3 will definitely be a good start. And in the meantime, if that ghost pops back into your life, ask yourself this – how comfortable are you with speaking to the dead?
Photo Credit: Photo by Dom Aguiar on Unsplash
