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My Guilt Pangs As A Parent by Chioma Momah

My Guilt Pangs As A Parent by Chioma Momah

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Every now & then as parents we feel guilty, this is especially common with working Moms (and Dads). The truth is that we are not alone and while you may wish you spent more time with your child, there is a stay at home parent somewhere wishing she could do more while at home. Toss out the guilt and look for ways to do more for your children and pat yourself on the back when you do a good job!

Here are a few tips that have helped me deal with parenting guilt.

Do not overdo it: Rather than let guilt control you use it as a check. For example if you feel guilty about not taking your children to swimming lessons then maybe it’s about time you started doing that even if it’s only once a month.

Have a plan: For parents with busy schedules you have to have a plan. If you are not able to pick your children from school every day make up for that by leaving the house early so you can drop them every morning . You can also try and have one or two days a week when you pick or drop off. This will help you bond more and give you a chance to discuss with your child’s teacher.

Have a back up plan: Instead of feeling guilty about missing every one of your child’s plays have a backup. A back up could be asking a close friend or relative to go in your stead and record your child’s presentation. It’s not the same as you being there but at least your child feels special knowing someone came.

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Surround yourself with the right people:  it’s important to have the right people around you. Instead of having friends who criticize you for not exclusively breast feeding your baby or not spending enough time with your children, look for friends that will understand and encourage you

It’s not all about the Money: sometimes as parents we feel guilty that we can’t afford to buy our child the latest gaming console or take our children for a holiday in Paris, but guess what ? Not owning a console or travelling for summer is not the end of the world. The truth is that even when we can afford to, giving our child every single thing is not a good idea as you could end up over indulging them. Rather we should teach our children to enjoy life without necessarily spending money. Also we should learn than our children would choose our love over money any day!

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