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Chick Chat with Cornelia ODwyer: Can You Teach A 40 year Old Man Etiquette?

Chick Chat with Cornelia ODwyer: Can You Teach A 40 year Old Man Etiquette?

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This is a feature from one of my readers which she has asked me to share. Our Nigerian Aunties have advised her to stay focused on the ‘important’ things but can you overlook your spouse embarrassing you?  How important should Etiquette be on a “woman’s list” #TWLife #TWChickChat

My boyfriend and I both live in London. He is 40 and I’m 29. One of my Aunties likes hooking people up and so she hyped him up and said he was a good God-fearing guy looking to settle down and she feels we would be a perfect match. I decided to give it a try and met him at a mutual friends house. We got to chatting and took things from there. He was alright looking, caring and generous. He seems regular in church, owns his flat and is hardworking but here is the issue….He has no etiquette at all.

We went out for dinner for the first time after 6 months and he was all over the place. We had been meeting each other in doors since we met in the winter and we both work long hours with only Sunday’s off. So indoor dating is all we did. I chose the place. It was an Asian fusion buffet. He clearly hadn’t seen anything like this. He was a complete embarrassment. Asking me to take pictures at the food stand, mounting his plate with so much food that he knew he couldn’t finish. He kept going back and forth to fill his plate with “variety” so he could show off in his pictures. I was confused as I hadn’t seen this side of him or perhaps I overlooked some little things. My biggest shock was when he said he wanted to change tables to a table of 4 because there were no people showing in his pictures so we should move! Huuhhhhh??

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At this point you should know how terrible I was feeling, I explained we probably shouldn’t move since we are just two and we may have to move in between our meal if a party of four came in. He didn’t listen and he went ahead and thought I’d go with him, to his surprise, I didn’t move from my seat so he got angry and refused to eat.

He’s someone that you can’t correct and since I told him that’s no way to behave publicly, it ended in a fight and we haven’t spoken in 3 weeks. He is not picking up my calls and when he finally did, he claims I maltreated him and he didn’t like it. Am I wrong for calling him out on his “abebelube” (forward behaviour) or are my aunties right, You can teach him etiquette? Should I let it go or look at his other qualities.

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