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#ChickChat With Connie Girl: My Husband Doesn’t Share His Problems With Me! Are All Men Like This?

#ChickChat With Connie Girl: My Husband Doesn’t Share His Problems With Me! Are All Men Like This?

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Hello Guys! It’s #ChickChat.
I’ve always wondered why some men don’t share their issues with the women in their relationships. Is it purely in respect of wanting to shield your partner from worry or do men generally not like sharing with women or women “oversharing” their issues. This marry your best friend thing doesn’t apply to all men. #JustSaying

My hubby Ladi does this thing of keeping me in the dark when things go wrong with his friends, at work, financially or generally when reaches a road block. He gets moody and dismisses the topics when I bring them up. I mean there is NEVER a good time. It aggravates me that he doesn’t regularly share his struggles. He see’s no merit in discussing issues I can’t “solve” so he won’t burden me with “details”. These are statements he has made when I have asked him about sharing with me. His reasons seem “honourable” but the outcome is not always favourable.

He once opened up about a failing business venture at the last minute. He never told me how financially dire the situation was until the bitter end, when he had no choice.  This in effect was wrong, as I had a bigger shock than if he would have let me know gradually and we could have tried to solve the problem together.  Again he was trying to protect me, but it was to no avail.

On the other hand, I share everything from problems at work to friends and family but I’ve noticed he uses it against me in arguments. We got in an argument the other day and when arguing his point, he mentioned that I am filled with drama. He brought up an issue that I shared with him and used it as ammo.  I threw a bachelorette party for a friend and one of the bridesmaids didn’t lift a finger and I shared my annoyance with him how was that a crime?

I don’t feel like I can share anything with him without it being thrown in my face when we are having an unrelated disagreement. I’m beyond frustrated and I’m starting to not want to open up to him. I am always communicating and almost to a fault so after the dust settled I asked him why he brings up old “stuff” that has nothing to do with what we are heatedly discussing. I told him that when he does that it’s  poor sportsmanship- he’s not fighting fair -and he’s dredging up things that have no bearing at that moment. His response was, why am I so sentimental when he speaks his feelings and it seems I want to know his deeper thoughts but when the barbs start flying I cant take it.

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Someone help me understand, are all men like this? Should I take his approach on keeping my issues to myself or is my husband petty or emotionally abusive?

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