Chick Chat With Connie Girl: Why Is It More Acceptable For A Woman Rather Than A Man To Receive Financial Help From Parents
Hello guys!
#TalkTuesday A.K.A #ChickChat is a few days late today due to some technical issues with the site which has now been fixed.
Now let’s get straight into it.
Is it more acceptable for a woman rather than a man to receive parental help? Some women and men still receive help from their parents well into their 40’s. There seems to be a free pass with women receiving daddy & mommy’s money but for some reason parental dependence is not the most attractive trait for a man to have.
#JudgeThisMatter
My husband and I are both in the same industry. We run a PR agency. Given the recent economic decline, a few of our revolving clients pulled out largely due to a huge cut back in corporate communication budgets . The lack of COT charges and CBN regulations are proving hard on business. There is no free cash flow, competition is fierce and daily living gets harder when business is bad. We haven’t had any new business since December last year. Both clients in total usually give us about N30Million Naira in revenue for the year whilst the others are very small jobs. I immediately panicked because we depend on these clients and have struggled to get new clients despite bundled packaging and intense marketing efforts. The nations well is dry. We just aren’t breaking even. We both love the industry we are in and quit our corporate jobs to set up the company. My hubby’s dad passed away but his mom is still strong and quite successful. She invested in the initial idea 3years ago but each time business is bad, he speaks to her and before I know it everything is fine and bills are sorted. I have never interfered or questioned any of their conversations but aren’t we as a woman meant to “train” a man? Should a mother always be so quick to come to a mans aid. I love my hubby but I fear that in absence of his mother we may not be able to cope. I told my pastors wife that I find my husband too dependent on his mother bailing us out and all I got was “take it to the Lord in prayer”. I am 30 now and 4 years into marriage. When I asked him about going back into full time employment, he said he never wants to work for anyone and he has paid his dues so I started writing business plans for extra income but it’s hardly enough to pay bills. I did not notice the glaring dependency on his mother as he never had those conversations in my presence neither did he confess the numerous cash transfers. We have a two year old and he recently suggested having another child soon but I cannot fathom the extra strain that would be on us so I am still on the pill. I believe in speaking into my husbands life, so I’ve prayed upon prayed. At 26 I didn’t really see these deeper traits but my new perspective now has me worried.
Can my marriage survive? How else aside from “prayer” does a woman tackle living with a “non-hustler” Is this laziness or does it not matter where the income comes from?